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Postby soopermouse » Fri Jun 09, 2006 6:54 am

Army Of Me wrote:I had a few doubts about whether or not I should post on this thread. My intention with this comment is not really to agree or disagree with either of the 2 main writers above. (disclaimer done - waits for shit to fly - oops.)

I was around in the 70's and believe me, the problems were around then, it's just that due to technology and the backlash (which has now been going on for a generation or more - if you were around then, it's obvious) against the original feminist ideaology,the problems are on a much much bigger scale and yes, include issues that were not even named at the time (such as sex-traffiking).

But feminism is and always was about humanitarianism, love and the right to be treated/represented as something other than a fuck-object. Everything follows from that IMHO.

Call me simple.


far beinhg from me to deny that, on the contrary. I am just upset by Heart's attempt to deny us our agency because our definition of radfem is not mot a mot hers.
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Postby rich » Fri Jun 09, 2006 6:57 am

I am just upset by Heart's attempt to deny us our agency


Do you seriously believe that? How'd she get that kind of power anyway? And anyone posting at this board is probably familiar with how "agency" arguments are used to protect prostitution.
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Postby soopermouse » Sun Jun 11, 2006 11:51 am

rick- may I kindly remind yu that words have normally more than one meaning, and that the meaning is heavily depending on the context??

What makes Heart's post so particularly upsetting for me is the fact that she is one of us. It hurts a hell of a lot worse when the one doing the stabbing is your own flesh and blood. And it felt like a stabbing, because of the fact tha I respect her and women like her. That is where the problem stands.

It also has to do with something else: the persistent increase in pornstitution and in rapes and commodification of the women's sexuality is not an old phenomenon. As it happens, it has increased substantially in the past 30 years. It has happened on the second wavers' watch.
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Postby rich » Sun Jun 11, 2006 12:00 pm

So you're blaming her for the rise of prostitution?

How is that not stabbing someone in the face; if you honestly believe what you're saying, you're doing (and have been doing, and continue to do so, trying to whip up some sort of resentment against her at other venues like Biting Beaver's) exactly what you're accusing her of doing. Is it possible that she wrote one blog post "dividing women," yes, although that's not my nor many other's interpretation of her words. On the other hand, you're going all over the place trying to divide, including here--and not in a private section of the forum, either, but in the open in the presence of those who would do *both* of you harm.

Because of that, I'm bowing out of this conversation, too.
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Postby soopermouse » Sun Jun 11, 2006 12:21 pm

I am not accusing her of the rise of the pornstitution, I am looking at the data and I see good enough reasons to suspect cognitive dissonance on her behalf.
There are a lot of third wavers who have been intimidated into not talking by her post. It's not particularly fair not honest IMHO to try and downplay others' work for not fitting into your own definition, and then to react as if you have the moral high ground.
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Postby rich » Sun Jun 11, 2006 12:49 pm

There are a lot of third wavers who have been intimidated into not talking by her post


bullshit. pure, unquantifiable bullshit.

and I don't think anyone on *this* website even believes in second wave / third wave so the entire premise is an absurd one designed to divide women.

OK, now I'm really done. I just couldn't let something like that go unanswered though.
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Postby soopermouse » Sun Jun 11, 2006 12:59 pm

rich wrote:
There are a lot of third wavers who have been intimidated into not talking by her post


bullshit. pure, unquantifiable bullshit.



OK, now I'm really done. I just couldn't let something like that go unanswered though.


Am I supposed to roll my eyes now? I see no point in it. I also see no point into your trying to bully me around for an opinion that does not coincide with yours.

and I don't think anyone on *this* website even believes in second wave / third wave so the entire premise is an absurd one designed to divide women.


And God forbid someone might have a different opinion , or you are at risk of being unpopular. This is not a highschool, Rich. And your macho attempts to intimidate me do not work.

Insofar, I am yet to see anything that would prove Heart's good intentions.

I have also failed to see any valid argument from your part, aside from what amounts to bullying attempts and trolling. At which you are not even good, but that is another story.
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Postby resisterance » Sun Jun 11, 2006 3:56 pm

i dont agree with you soopermouse, on pretty much everything you've said here.

and i think that actually since the beginning of this you've been extremely hostile to heart and to anyone who does not share your pov. hearts responses to you were calm and respectful, even when your posts about her were most definitely not.

as for this:
It also has to do with something else: the persistent increase in pornstitution and in rapes and commodification of the women's sexuality is not an old phenomenon. As it happens, it has increased substantially in the past 30 years. It has happened on the second wavers' watch.


i cant even believe you wrote that.
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Postby soopermouse » Sun Jun 11, 2006 10:10 pm

vg1 wrote:i dont agree with you soopermouse, on pretty much everything you've said here.

Do you expect me to sit back and allow someone who knows absolutely nothing about me slander my work because it des not fit her narrow ( and conveniently self serving) definition? I would not take that from a man, so why would I take it from her?




i cant even believe you wrote that.





I did. The data shows damn clear that it has happened, so why would I choose to hide from the truth?

I have a hell of a lot of respect for the second wavers, namely those that I feel deserve it, and my respect is not particularly doled out easily. However, do not expect me to forget that whilst proporn and so called sex positive feminists ( which I am not implying Heart is, just to make sure Rich does not find another good reason to troll about) were too busy defending the porn makers' free speech and kindly retiring back into the comforting arms of the patriarchy and having their children, that pornography and objectification of women managed to reach an all time high.
and i think that actually since the beginning of this you've been extremely hostile to heart and to anyone who does not share your pov. hearts responses to you were calm and respectful, even when your posts about her were most definitely not.

Yes, I am yet to master poisonous accusations in a nice voice. On my planet, that is kinda called hypocrisy.
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Postby Army Of Me » Mon Jun 12, 2006 1:03 am

soopermouse, with respect, and knowing that you feel so strongly, I would still ask that you not call anyone a troll in here. I think you said this in the heat of the moment, but just because rich is a male contributor does not automatically set him up for troll accusations when the subject becomes heated. I feel this was unfair, uncalled for and unjustified.

OK - Maybe future postings could be made via PMs or in the private section.
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Postby resisterance » Mon Jun 12, 2006 1:06 am

i think we have a very different understanding of history - as far as im aware the big "sex-positive" movement was most definitely pushed forward by those who described themselves as "third wave". it coincided with the eighties materialist yuppie movement, which is no real coincidence im sure. the third wave manifestas and essays i have seen have all been about 'reclaiming' feminism from the radicals (the whole point of the 'third' title was to differentiate these porn positive party girls from the 'repressed' and depressed old guard) and pushing "personal choice" and the right to 'be pretty'. in my head theres a great big question over third wave feminism - has it happened yet, is it happening now, what does it even mean? this is an interesting subject, but my point is that i don't understand what you are saying about this 'third wave' because it doesnt tie in with any of the other things i've read. perhaps an explanation of your own understanding of it would be a good way to start this discussion on another thread?

on this topic: i didnt see heart slander you. i saw you tell her to fuck off, i saw you slag off her own ideas sentence by sentence, and i saw you claim that she had put feminists off blogging any more. this whole debate has stopped me from blogging, ive felt completely and utterly alienated - but funnily enough not from the same direction.

ive seen a few women speak out, amy and nectarine for example, but mostly ive see the same silencing of women on this subject amongst feminists that ive see everywhere else. im hurt and disappointed by it.

this whole thread just reads like an excuse to lay into someone, you've personalised this argument into a huge attack on heart rather than in any way trying to understand or discuss the issues on the table.
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Postby delphyne » Mon Jun 12, 2006 3:09 am

I have to say in defence of Soopermouse that Heart personalised the discussion first with her talk of "white picket fence" feminists and this line -

"There is a sort of almost giggly enthusiasm about being "rad" in this group which nettles, especially where the bloggers do not appear to be particularly "rad."

That's quite a dismissive way to talk about other women. So if there is retaliation, whilst it isn't right, it is part of a larger dynamic. Soopermouse's insults aren't in response to nothing.

There is a discussion to be had about what radical feminism is and isn't but I don't think it helps to mark out a whole lot of people at the very beginning as "not radical". They may be, they may not be, but perhaps a conversation needs to be had first.
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Postby bitingbeaver » Mon Jun 12, 2006 6:33 am

I would agree with Delphyne's assertion on this one. While I also do not doubt Hearts motives the term "White picket fence feminist" is offensive at it's roots.

The implication is the same as 'Fair weathered friend'. Now, I would like to point out that I have not read the article yet so I may be in no position to speak, however the terminology is inherently as offensive as fair weathered friend.

I think that some element of defensiveness and frustration is to be expected.
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Postby rich » Mon Jun 12, 2006 8:15 am

Now, I would like to point out that I have not read the article yet so I may be in no position to speak,


All of this crap has spiraled so far out of control that I have a hard time believing that you have not encountered the "offensive" post; I'll take you at your word, that you have not read it, but a result of me doing so also means that it strains credibility when Soopermoose asserts that Heart is silencing people when she's evidently not even important enough for the masses to actually bother to see what it is she's writing.

After all, it seems apparent that there's a coordinated campaign (people more than willing to sit back quietly and smile while using Soopermoose as a wrecking ball) to shut Heart up and make HER disappear, not the other way around. I'm sure Heart is used to that and it's not surprising at all to her.
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Postby bitingbeaver » Mon Jun 12, 2006 9:52 am

Rich,

Cut the crap. You can believe me or you don't but I resent the fact that you doubt me on this one. No, I haven't read Heart's post and I'm reserving judgement on it. But your implication that I am lying is offensive as hell.

I also know that the post HAS been read by quite a few people. I've heard the talk and I've been curious. With that said, I also have 3 kids, a farm, a sick dog as well as homeschooling, a blog and other things that you can't even begin to fathom that are happening right now.

Your post to me is offensive and rude.

You first imply that I'm lying but that you'll bestow upon me your almighty benefit of the doubt. As if I need it to validate myself anyway?

You then go on to implicate that I believe that Heart is not important because, as you so cunningly say,

<b>"she's evidently not even important enough for the masses to actually bother to see what it is she's writing.</b>"

As if

A) I'm the masses and

B) You know whether or not I think she's 'important'

You then go on to implicate that people who are too afraid to speak up are 'hiding' behind soopermouse which is interesting because if they're too busy 'hiding' then how the hell do you know that they're there anyway?

Quite frankly I resent your loaded comment and I resent the patronizing tone you're using with it. Your sarcasm and the presuppositions that dot your entire way of speaking do not go unnoticed.
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Postby rich » Mon Jun 12, 2006 10:51 am

Eh, I think there's enough rudeness and suppositions going around on all sides, only it's being pointed out unevenly and opportunistically -- sort of like one side of a sporting match hyping their injuries to get the ref's attention, only there's no ref so it comes down to public opinion. Soopermoose is right, it is high school cafeteria politics, but she's giving as well as she's getting (and that's understating it greatly) and she has more tables on her side, so I'm not exactly seeing what the big crisis is or how it could possibly be resolved in her eyes.

This discussion is drawing in people from all over the place (you have to admit that you haven't posted here in a while and yet you made a beeline for this thread): I'm not interested in helping people get away with gangpiling Heart, no matter what their motives might be or how hard they protest that they don't have any.

Since there's no resolution to be had -- save of Soopermoose being allowed go on blaming "second wavers" for the rise of prostitution or whatever and verbally dismembering Heart all over the internet (something you helped sanction by posting her comments in your blog considering they were *utterly* besides the point in the topic they were posted in) -- I'm not sure what the point is.

I'll say one thing though: if the white picket fence shoe doesn't fit, why own it? That's like supposedly pro-feminist men who get bent out of shape when women say "men do x" and then the guys go on to insist that they're not like that when they have no reason to make such an insistance. If anyone thinks that Heart is talking about them or their community and doesn't have cause to be, maybe it's because they don't consider Heart to be part of the feminist community as they see it and judge her as an outsider looking in. But she's not.

So now it's not just secondwave/thirdwave, there's various "competing" internet-waves as well?
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Postby oneangrygirl » Mon Jun 12, 2006 10:56 am

I regret to say that I have not had the time to read this ever-growing thread due to puking baby issues.
It seemed like it was pretty civil for a while - when it was just Heart and Soopermouse.
Could we try to return to civility? At least until Sam and I have a chance to read it all?
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Postby bitingbeaver » Mon Jun 12, 2006 12:26 pm

Rich,

You'll note also that I posted not only Soopermouses comment but also your comment and Delphyne's comment. Since I don't make it a habit to mod feminists I decided to let it through.

I cannot tell you how much I resent your crappy attitude here. To be completely honest with you I have absolutely zero motive on this one way or the other. I told you that I haven't read the piece (I actually did go and hunt it down earlier this afternoon and bookmark it. I began reading it but was called away) and, while I am familiar with the fact that it exists, I do not have any thoughts about it yet.

I respect Heart and I respect her voice and I don't make it a habit of attacking any feminist.

However, I would like to point out that this is not the first time that you've attempted to tell me that you're unhappy with the way I run my site. NOR is this the first time I've seen you, a man, personally attacking female feminists.

I have no interest in 'gangpiling' Heart either. My point is that by phrasing the term "white picket fence" when talking to your own allies, you are starting from a not so unbiased point.

Delphyne pointed this out and I agree fully with her and, despite what you may think, I can fully agree that the phrasing is not the best way to start off a discussion while still respecting and honoring the very clear radical voice that Heart has.

OAG,

I also respect what you're saying here and I will refrain from commenting in this thread again :)
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Postby rich » Mon Jun 12, 2006 12:41 pm

I cannot tell you how much I resent your crappy attitude here.


You did, you have been, and I can only assume that you will, even if you're the only one finding to be all that crappy. And believe it or not, I'm allowed to resent that, too.
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Postby soopermouse » Mon Jun 12, 2006 9:58 pm

think we have a very different understanding of history - as far as im aware the big "sex-positive" movement was most definitely pushed forward by those who described themselves as "third wave". it coincided with the eighties materialist yuppie movement, which is no real coincidence im sure. the third wave manifestas and essays i have seen have all been about 'reclaiming' feminism from the radicals (the whole point of the 'third' title was to differentiate these porn positive party girls from the 'repressed' and depressed old guard) and pushing "personal choice" and the right to 'be pretty'. in my head theres a great big question over third wave feminism - has it happened yet, is it happening now, what does it even mean? this is an interesting subject, but my point is that i don't understand what you are saying about this 'third wave' because it doesnt tie in with any of the other things i've read. perhaps an explanation of your own understanding of it would be a good way to start this discussion on another thread?

on this topic: i didnt see heart slander you. i saw you tell her to fuck off, i saw you slag off her own ideas sentence by sentence, and i saw you claim that she had put feminists off blogging any more. this whole debate has stopped me from blogging, ive felt completely and utterly alienated - but funnily enough not from the same direction.

ive seen a few women speak out, amy and nectarine for example, but mostly ive see the same silencing of women on this subject amongst feminists that ive see everywhere else. im hurt and disappointed by it.

this whole thread just reads like an excuse to lay into someone, you've personalised this argument into a huge attack on heart rather than in any way trying to understand or discuss the issues on the table.


This is what Wikipedia says, and I am almost happy with the definition:

Third-wave feminism is a feminist movement that began in the early 1990s. While second-wave feminism largely focused on the inclusion of women in traditionally male-dominated areas, third-wave feminism seeks to challenge and expand common definitions of gender and sexuality.


The term radical in radical feminism (from Latin r&#257;d&#299;x, r&#257;d&#299;c-, root) is used as an adjective meaning of or pertaining to the root or going to the root. Radical feminists locate the root cause of women's oppression in patriarchal gender relations, as opposed to legal systems (liberal feminism) or class conflict (socialist feminism and Marxist feminism).


Mostly, I see third wave being perceived as a generation thing- second wave- baby boomers, third wave- gen X.

Yes, there are a hell of a lot of differences between the two, their aims and their remit. It was precisely because of these differences that I had chosen to respond to Heart, because I'm quite not the kind to sit and take at attack without a word.

Heart's post was a very politely worded attack. Under the guise of reclaiming the term "radical feminism", she disparaged and insulted our work,by framing it in a very self serving notion.

The problems with that are many.

To begin with, the term "white picket fence feminist" as opposed to "radical feminist" is a bit bizarre to be used by her, people who live in glass houses and all that.

She has accused us of being followers of a fad- as such questioned our commitment, of being mostly white middle class privileged women, which to my knowledge of the radfem blogosphere does not quite apply to most of us, and disparaged our work against sexual oppression, sexual violence, pornography, proxenetism and prostitution, as not being "radical enough" for her own taste.

Typically, radical feminism is seen by people other than adherents as a form of identity politics.


As such, Heart has taken it upon herself to redefine and deny us our identity. Needless to say, I am not taking that from anyone, and that is about it.

I am not aiming to silence her, because all voices are welcome. However, a retraction would be nice.
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