Thank you,Kate, that was a very instructive.
I hear you are saying.
I try to tell guys to not be scared or upset when idiot males challenge their masculinity,(or even non feminist Women who say we are not 'real men" lol) but what you bring up is that people do not want to be made to look foolish within their own group. Good point..
I still make silly mistakes, even though I have been around the movement for a very long time. I am not a Woman, and we will never know what that is, you can learn a lot as a guy, but every once in a while those gaps or blind spots are going to be there. for example when I walk down the street with a woman, I don't experience her being harassed by cat callers making
ing remarks. No one feels me up in the subway.
I think that you are saying to be nice to the newbies... I agree. Sometimes I come off a little stentorian. I'm going to work on that.
One thing that you said rang very true.
" When I finally told him about it he started finding backup for what he'd always sensed all along, but didn't know how to explain."
I hear from nearly every guy that is going to be serious about this:
' always knew there was something wrong' or "every since I was a kid I felt.."
I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing, but from my observations, the majority of guys that are going to take it serious were feeling that way "about patriarchy before they became grownups. I wonder if you could ask that question of your bf-
did he have these feelings as a teen? pre teen?
It seems to be something that keeps coming up for me.
"I was analyzing a phenomenon I am seeing on the internet-- a proliferation of blogs in which the blogger identifies as a radical feminist, but does not seem to embrace the distinctives of radical feminism as we understand the term in the United States.And you know, I think it's okay if they do that, but I also think it's important to say what I said because otherwise (1) herstoric radical feminism gets erased; (2) people new to feminism never hear what herstoric radical feminism really was or is."~ Heart