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As a keen internet hobbyist, I can report that one doesn't simply amble into X-rated or even R18+ material. One must actively seek it.
When I am lacking culinary inspiration, I will browse a recipe database. When my writing is misfiring, I catch up with The New Yorker. And when my boudoir has become as flavourless as my writing or my food, I go to a website that propriety will not permit me to divulge.
I am very grateful for the DIY stylings of my internet teachers. And I imagine many others are grateful for the inspiration that gushes from these amateur couplings as well.
Despite the best efforts of some, there is no evidence that pornography will negatively affect me or other consenting adults.
The only lasting effect of my access to porn is a reflex giggle when the pizza delivery man knocks on my door.
phio gistic wrote: I guess it makes them feel better, they can beat up Dworkin instead of face their own consciences
delphyne wrote:She reminds me of other assholes closer to home who pretended to be anti porn because they thought radical feminsim was an in-crowd where if you sounded like you meant it that would be enough. Then it turns out they didn't agree with anti-porn arguments and wanted to spend their time trying to undermine them and the people making them.
Had she never seen porn before she became an anti-porn feminist? If she hadn't and she didn't know whether she liked it (it seemed to come as a surprise to her), why was she against it in the first place?
That's also one of the favourite ways pro-porners have to undermine Andrea Dworkin - to pretend what she wrote is masturbatory material. They reduce her incredible work to a sex object the way in the same way men can reduce women to sex objects in order to put them down.
And to be ageist here, aren't you supposed to get over that please the boys crap ("I've got great tits!") by the time you're in your forties?
thebewilderness wrote:I do not think it possible for women to be "worse than men" with regard to sexism. After all, women do not rape, abuse, and murder, women on a daily basis.
However, it is important to remember that women experience exactly the same social conditioning to view women as objects for the use of men. I suspect the feminist taboo has to do with resisting compliance with the conditioning to blame women for what men do.
thebewilderness wrote:In fact you and I and all of us have been conditioned to believe that women are far worse than men in every possible way at the same time women are expected to be better than men in every possible way.
When men blame us for what men do to us it is no more than we expect.
When women blame us for what men do to us it is an outrage.
Because we expect better of women.
Why?
I think it is because we never see women as people. Good, bad, and indifferent, the way we are conditioned to see men.
thebewilderness wrote:I think we will have to agree to disagree. The idea that being mocked by a woman is worse than being raped by a man is contrary to my experience.
You are entitled to believe whatever you wish. In fact you and I and all of us have been conditioned to believe that women are far worse than men in every possible way at the same time women are expected to be better than men in every possible way.
When men blame us for what men do to us it is no more than we expect.
When women blame us for what men do to us it is an outrage.
Because we expect better of women.
Why?
I think it is because we never see women as people. Good, bad, and indifferent, the way we are conditioned to see men.
I see no other way to perceive a woman's lack of empathy and caring to be worse than a man's abuse.
You said :I observed during my research that it is a feminist taboo to consider the idea that women can be sexist (and even worse than men).
then I said: I do not think it possible for women to be "worse than men" with regard to sexism. After all, women do not rape, abuse, and murder, women on a daily basis.
Then you said: Yes,they can...i had experiences that prooved that.Although women don´t rape,they monk on women that were raped and blame them,
Thaks God i am not a survivor...and don´t get offended easily...
beigesilkworm wrote:
Andromache,That is really a terrible story,i hope you will be able to get support.Unfortunally i am still without financial conditions to create my supportative group,but i am happy that the Catw-Lac branch nomiated me as national director for Brasil,and in a nearby future,we will make justice for people who suffer the same than you.Thanks God our justice force here is imparcial,mothers/stepmothers who refuse to belive their abused daughthers/sons are arrested toghether with the abuser.
beigesilkworm wrote:i am happy that the Catw-Lac branch nomiated me as national director for Brasil,
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