Oh, Radical Feminist, I'm so sorry to hear you're so upset.
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It is probably very likely that your brother has (or will have) misogynistic rapist coercive attitudes toward womyn & girls, as pornography promotes rapist behavior. Personally, I wouldn't waste any energy on him, as men are stealing women's emotional energy all the time. In case you ever happen to meet one of his female friends though, please let 'em know what he's all about, and there might be some lives saved (at least temporarily).
radical_feminist wrote:Why are men so fucked up?
Well, I've read a few Nature vs. Nurture feminist theories on this, but I'd rather not pay attention to men anymore at all (as a separatist). If a tiny few pro-feminist males want to teach other men about justice & non-violence (e.g. John Stoltenberg, Robert Jensen, Rich of Adonis Mirror, etc), then I'm okay with that so long as they speak to men, not to women - as it is up to us only to decide what we want from Women's Liberation (and we should be suspicious of all males, including allies, yes, sometimes).
But, within the current system, the vast majority of men are assholes, scumbags and this is a fact. That is why we shouldn't waste any sort of time on any kind of 'Nature/Nurture' debate concerning men. The best thing for a woman to do, IMO (in the system as it stands today), is to completely separate from men whenever and if she can, as it ensures more safety. The best is to stop spending any sort of our precious gyn-energy on misogynist men (who probably represent more than 90-95% of the male population), because they're only gonna make fun of us and treat us like shit in the end. Males benefit from patriarchy in one way or another; they usually don't see anything good in the posibility of the collapse of their system.
I wonder why some women support men and don't listen to women.
Womyn are socialized from birth into 'feminine' roles, i.e. roles that require that they focus all their attention on men. They learn to become the husbands & boyfriends' "ego-boosters"; they learn to glorify the big 'achievements' of the Big Men in our society (who have acquired a position of power); they learn to view other women as their enemies/rivals; etc the list goes on. In short, womyn are brainwashed into believing that they are "not oppressed" or that "things could be worse". In a patriarchal society, women learn to become male-identified because men hold the power to indocrinate them (through every facets of the malestream media, through religions, in schools, in the Academia, in law & other male-supremacist brainwashing institutions). I'm sure you know what I mean.
I wonder why they stick by men even when they're educated enough to know what is happening is wrong.
I guess that, within a culture that is All About Teh Menz, womyn have been socialized to even stick by men because of fear or false consciousness...
Hope that makes sense. Take care, Radical Feminist.
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And you know, if your family won't support you, I'm pretty sure you have/will have/could have some female friends IRL who would be willing to support you or whom you could talk to, perhaps?
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